When I first thought about writing this post, two names came to my mind, What is a Woman and The Enigma of Woman. But I felt that both these names spell masculine bias. Woman has always been treated by men as a mere thing or an incomprehensible enigma. Such a stance is bound to do injustice to women. But ironically, both these phrases are names of two books written by women about women. The former is by Toril Moi and the latter by Sarah Kofman.
Traditionally, men have always preferred to treat women either as a thing, which resulted in their exploitation or as an enigma, which resulted in romanticism. What women desire, lies beyond both consequences.
But who am I to decide?
Obviously, I have no authority to say the final word on these matters. But I do feel that most women will agree with my view that subordination and romanticisation is not that which they truly desire.
Then, what does a woman desire?
Does a woman desires most of all to be desired?
I don't think so. That would to too superficial.
Is this desire which defines woman?
Woman is the very incarnation of desire?
Desire is feminine.
Possession is masculine.
Thats why men throughout the history have been hunters, predators, emperors and colonialists.
And what women did all the time?
They are said to be the originators of agriculture.
Agriculture needs patience, faith and empathy.
Today, modern woman is in crisis because she is trying to imitate man with all her might. And she is losing herself, her most precious gifts, in this abominable game of imitation.
French militant feminists like Kristeva, Irigaray and Cixous have called women to stop this imitation and be themselves, independent of what men think about them. Its indeed a great step. Women, in their originality, are more beautiful than this culture of glamor can make them. These extraordinarily wise women are suggesting that women should evolve their distinctive
personalities based on a matriarchal culture.
For the finest gift which women have is that of motherhood. Mothers sustain this earth and life itself. This abode of humanity will definitely change for better when women recognize the beauty of motherhood and realize that their true self can be expressed only through becoming mothers rather than mere morsels in men's mouths.